Looking back, I’ve had quite the business journey…

And it did… sort of. But it didn’t feel very good. And it took a lot out of me.

Yes, I was seeing clients and that work was fulfilling for both of us, but the way they came to me seemed more like a fluke than a symptom of all my efforts. It didn’t feel repeatable. 

It also didn’t feel authentic; it was like I constantly needed to become someone else to make it all work. (I now know this as masking)

I felt so confused by what to focus on, what tasks to do, and how to show up in a way that brought in the right people, that I kept churning thoughts about my business 100% of every day, as my ADHD brain tried to answer the burning question: how do I do this “right”?

At this point I not only felt powerless to create a business model that truly worked for me, I felt powerless to change the world in the big way my soul yearned for.

It was like I was a tree that had spent so many seasons growing and building energy up to offer this delicious fruit, and most of it was just laying there, rotting on the ground.

I felt defeated as I watched my peers grow their businesses and impact, while here I was still feeling at square one after years of seeing clients and building my business online.

I craved more ease and flow, more joy and pleasure, and a sense of confidence in how I ran my business (not just in the services I was providing).

It was so jarring to have my sessions and lessons with clients feel light and fulfilling, while all the other parts of my work felt heavy and exhausting.

By the end of 2017, after years of pushing so hard and working all hours and days and trying all the things, I crashed… HARD.

I had to admit to myself: it wasn’t working. I wasn’t happy. My mental & physical health were suffering. 

After all my years of healing and growth, I was disappointed in myself for letting things get so bad. I couldn’t do it anymore.

I gave myself permission to stop trying because it was hurting me and stealing my joy and negatively impacting my health and my relationships. 

I spent the last few weeks of 2017 on the couch, recovering from a severe chronic health flare up, wondering what I would do once I burned it all down.

Then, as 2018 began, a different voice spoke up within me. The voice that came from the deep purpose that I’ve had my whole life.

This voice said gently but firmly, “you can still do this, but you’re gonna have to do it differently. You’re gonna have to lead yourself in a different way. You’re gonna have to heal some wounds that are in the way. You’re gonna have to remember who you are and take a stand to be THAT.”

In that moment, I had a huge realization of some major things that had been missing in my approach: healing, and leadership.

I teach that awareness equals choice, and with this new found awareness, I could make different choices!

I had to be honest with myself that I had big wounds around being told to do things in a way that goes against my values, my neurodivergence, and my lifestyle. 

I also had wounds around power and authority that needed attention so I could show up as a leader for my business and for my prospective clients’ healing journey. 

In order to do that, I had to stop giving my power of choice away to other coaches, leaders, and influencers, and to learn how to make progress my way… without force, domination, or shame as my tactics.

I had to step into a different kind of leadership for myself, my business, and my people. To utilize my strong connection to my body, my intuition, and Spirit.

 😡 What a load of harmful bullshit! 😡

But why should you trust me?

When I was young I was very shy, until a pivotal moment when I was 11 set me on my leader path (a story I’ll be sharing more about at the event). Since working with healers the past decade, I’ve noticed a lot of these sensitive, intuitive, unconventional humans don’t really see themselves as leaders, and have some old paradigm stories about what a leader really is. 

They avoid leadership (and power) because they don’t want to cause harm, be manipulative, or lead clients or followers to go against themselves as they have experienced being led by others.

When they come to me, I celebrate this and thank them for this! I applaud the parts of them that have rebelled against the corrupt leadership we’ve been taught is THE way to lead. I invite them to love up their inner rebel and acknowledge their strength in resisting the temptation to go with the status quo.

And then, I show them a different way. That’s when everything changes.

A lot of people are drawn to me because they’ve been through a lot of pain and trauma, and have a deep calling to use their own healing journey to serve others.

As a survivor of childhood and domestic abuse, chronic mental and physical health issues, family estrangement, and navigating life with ADHD & cPTSD, I have a knack for creating safety and meeting people where they’re at.
 

One of the highest praise my clients often share with me is, “Thank you for seeing me.”

They share that they feel safe with me because they trust they can bare their darkest parts and won’t scare me away because I have been to the darkness and back many many times (and will continue to do so). They trust they can share their biggest visions and I will help them take one step after another to reach their dreams, without having to change who they are.

Something many of my neurodivergent clients share with me is that they often feel like the odd one out in a room full of people, and that when attending the events I lead they feel more seen and included! This is exactly what I’m going for.

It took me a full decade to finally feel solid in running my business.

But I don’t want it to take you that long! 

Right now, the world needs healers, teachers, and empathetic leaders to help us through these difficult transitions and create a better world.

So I’ve decided to provide you with a shortcut:

The Flow and Freedom Leadership Retreat

Join me for 2 days at the Jupiter Hotel in Portland, Oregon to finally understand and what it really takes to lead a business that is sustainable, profitable, impactful, and fulfilling.

The Flow and Freedom Leadership Retreat is your magic ticket to discovering your authentic leadership style and radically revealing the person you thought you had to become, but have been all along. All so you can enjoy the success you’ve been called to create with your sacred work. 

Once registered, you’ll get an email confirmation that has some basic parking info, your discount code to get 10% off if you choose to book at the hotel, and a link to a brief pre-event survey.

As the event approaches you’ll get a more detailed email with everything you’ll need to make the most of the event.

Hi, I’m Starr (with 2 r’s),
creator and facilitator of this unconventional event.

I am the founder of Radical Revelations, Flow & Grow Collective, and Starr’s Spiritual Sundays.

I’m also queer, a professional vocalist, mom of three, lover of Nintendo, and have been with my incredible husband for 22 years.

And while my life is currently fabulous, I’ve had my fair share of struggles and suffering this lifetime…

Diagnosed with ADHD at the end of 2022, I’m a survivor of childhood and domestic abuse, have managed chronic mental and physical health challenges for decades, and am estranged from most of my family of origin (and one of my own children).

Since launching my online business in 2012, I’ve experienced my own burnouts and moments of wanting to give up when everything it took to keep my practice going felt too painful, too hard, and too against who I really am.

Along the way I invested tens of thousands of dollars in business trainings, and studied and did what my mentors and business coaches told me to do. I beat myself up for not reaching goals or desired outcomes, or not being as “far along” as I thought I “should be.”

I got bogged down by our crumbling society and struggled with anxiety & depression as I wondered how to contribute my skillset and wisdom in a meaningful and fulfilling way. 

Thankfully, that wasn’t even close to the end of my story! After switching my niche too many times to count, I’m now honored to support other neurodivergent healing professionals with a calling to change the world with their work. Through my membership, private & group programs, and in-person events, I help these rad humans step fully into their leadership so they can keep sharing their sacred work without burning out or giving up.